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You Are Not Crazy
You’re exhausted from over-functioning, always managing the chaos just to make it seem okay. You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you.
Your friends don’t get it. You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you're the problem. You're not.
I understand—because I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to be stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship, gaslit into silence, and walking on eggshells every day.
This podcast is here to help you feel seen. To help you make sense of the confusion. To show you that you're not crazy—and you're not alone.
Whether you’re navigating narcissistic abuse, trauma bonding, or post-separation control, you’ll find clarity, validation, and language for what’s actually happening.
This is your space to reclaim your truth and begin healing—on your terms.
🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com
You Are Not Crazy
The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits
What do you do when the person you love explodes—and it has nothing to do with you, but you’re the one absorbing the damage?
In today’s episode, I’m talking about a very specific and disorienting experience: the emotional outbursts that often come from people with traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These episodes are not “just” arguments. They’re dysregulated storms—sudden, intense, and often terrifying—that leave you feeling blamed, spun, and emotionally shredded.
I break down what’s actually happening in these moments, why they feel so confusing, and how to begin separating yourself from the chaos. We’ll explore:
- What BPD-patterned emotional storms really are
- Why it feels like you’re being punished for something you didn’t do
- How to recognize these moments as trauma responses, not mutual conflict
- What helped me stop spiraling when I was stuck in these cycles
- The difference between compassion and self-sacrifice
- Why you’re not crazy for being overwhelmed, and why this isn’t your fault
This episode isn’t about diagnosing anyone. It’s about giving language to what survivors are living through—so you can stop blaming yourself, start validating your reality, and begin choosing peace over chaos.
If this resonates, I invite you to check out my full Substack series on Cluster B abuse patterns: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/
*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship
Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com
{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse
{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner