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You Are Not Crazy
You’re exhausted from over-functioning and managing everything to make it all seem okay. You feel very much alone. Your friends don’t understand. You feel you are the only one who understands you. I understand because I’ve been there. And sometimes the first step in healing is feeling validated and knowing that you are not crazy. I hope this podcast helps you normalize your reality and breakthrough Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. www.emotionalabusecoach.com
Episodes
188 episodes
He Controlled the Money — Now What? with Victoria Kirilloff
Vctoria Kirilloff, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and founder of Divorce Analytics, brings her sharp expertise, and personal experience leaving an abusive relationship, to help listeners navigate the financial side of divorce with clarity ...
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Episode 176
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Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae
I’m joined by Dr. Nae, trauma bond expert, author of Run Like Hell, and former wife of Jordan Belfort—better known as the Wolf of Wall Street. Dr. Nae shares her story of surviving a deeply toxic and pathological relationship, what it ...
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Episode 175
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36:22
How Abusers Use Therapy Against You
I explore how abusive partners can use therapy to reinforce blame, rewrite reality, and further control their partners. She breaks down red flags to watch for—like when therapy sessions become ammunition, or when your partner suddenly becomes a...
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Episode 174
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22:42
When Gaslighting Silences Your Inner Voice
This episode explores how gaslighting works, highlights red flags such as constant self-doubt and the need to over-apologize, and shares practical strategies for reclaiming your sense of reality. I also unpack the manipulative DARVO tactic—wher...
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Episode 173
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8:44
Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Necessary
You are allowed to be a whole person—not just a performance for someone else. If you've been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you may have been taught to compromise your needs, silence your instincts, and tie your worth to someone else's...
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Episode 172
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7:38
Are You Trapped in a High Conflict Divorce with a Narcissist?
In this episode, I discuss the isolating and draining reality of divorcing a narcissist. I share how constant manipulation, gaslighting, and relentless legal battles can leave you feeling lost and unheard. I dive into the challenges...
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Episode 171
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17:42
DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Keeps You Questioning Yourself
DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a pattern that keeps you stuck in cycles of self-doubt, confusion, and emotional turmoil. In this episode, I break down how it works, how to recognize it in real time, and—most importantly—ho...
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Episode 168
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9:33
How Cluster B Traits Show Up in Toxic Relationships
This episode is a deep dive into the reality of navigating relationships with individuals who exhibit traits of Cluster B personality disorders—including narcissistic, borderline, antisocial, and histrionic personality disorders. If you've ever...
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Episode 167
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30:00
I Love You, If You Do This: A Story of Realizing Sexual Coercion
Sex can be misused as a tool for emotional regulation and control rather than genuine connection. In this episode, I take you through a story describing what initially felt like overwhelming love gradually revealed itself as a pattern of guilt-...
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Episode 166
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18:56
Do You Feel Pressured to be Intimate?
Intimacy can be manipulated as a tool for control and emotional regulation. She shares intimate stories of recognizing coercive patterns—from subtle guilt-tripping and boundary violations to the misuse of sex as a litmus test for emotional conn...
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Episode 165
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18:09
Aimee the AI Advocate: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Emotional Abuse
Anne Wintemute, co-founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI-driven companion designed to support survivors of relationship abuse, joins me to share the inspiration behind Aimee and how it serves as an emotional support tool, offering valid...
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Episode 164
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42:06
Navigating Breakups
This episode breaks down why conventional breakup rules don’t apply when you’re dealing with manipulation, control, and gaslighting, and offers guidance on how to reclaim your boundaries, your sanity, and your life. By focusing on patterns over...
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Episode 163
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18:29
Understanding the Capability of Emotionally Abusive People with Paul Colaianni
Can an emotionally abusive person change? Paul Colliani joins me to explore the patterns of manipulative behavior, why some people refuse to take accountability, and how anxious attachment and emotional immaturity play into abusive dynamics.&nb...
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Episode 162
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1:26:27
Trauma Bonding – Understanding the Addictive Cycle in Toxic Relationships
In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really means and why it can feel so hard to leave a toxic relationship. Instead of being about sharing past trauma, trauma bonding happens because of a crazy cycle of ups and downs—b...
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Episode 161
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27:03
Breaking Free from a Toxic Relationship
Traditional breakup rules fall short when you're dealing with a partner whose only goal is to control the narrative—and why the breakup never feels like an ending at all. In this episode, I will discuss:Unpacks the Cycle: Dis...
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Episode 160
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17:01
Why Am I Stuck?
"Why am I stuck?" In this episode, I unpack the layers of trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, gaslighting, and self-blame that keep survivors tethered to their abusers long after the relationship ends.I share insights from my own heali...
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Episode 159
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21:59
Fear of Abandonment vs. Pushing People Away: Breaking the Cycle of Chaos in Relationships
How can a fear of abandonment lead to pushing people away? In this episode, I explore the complexities of anxious attachment, traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and how self-awareness can pave the way for healthier relationships.<...
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Episode 158
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17:46
When "No" Isn't Respected: Understanding Sexual Coercion
This episode dives into the misunderstood and rarely discussed topic of sexual coercion in relationships. I discuss recognizing coercive patterns and how emotional manipulation can slowly erode personal boundaries, leaving you feeling tr...
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Episode 157
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37:41
Divorce Coaching is a Game-Changer for High-Conflict Situations
Divorce coaching can transform your experience when navigating high-conflict separations, especially with a narcissistic or difficult ex. Learn why proactive coaching is more effective than crisis-mode reactions, how to build resilience during ...
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Episode 160
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44:46
Navigating New Year’s Pressure After Emotional Abuse
New Year’s resolutions often come with societal pressure to transform, but if you’re recovering from emotional abuse, they can feel overwhelming and triggering. In this episode, I share why it’s okay to step away from the noise and focus on wha...
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Episode 161
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29:08
Holiday Triggers and Emotional Healing
Holidays can be a minefield of emotions, especially when past traumas resurface. In this episode, I delve into the complexities of holiday triggers and how they amplify everything. We explore understanding why holidays can trigger past tr...
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Episode 159
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23:35
High-Conflict Co-Parenting During the Holidays
Navigating co-parenting challenges with a high-conflict ex can feel overwhelming—especially during the holiday season. In this episode, I share practical strategies to manage last-minute schedule changes, manipulative behavior, and the emotiona...
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Episode 158
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21:15
Holidays Without Your Kids
Navigating the holidays without your kids? You're not alone, and this episode is here to support you. On this episode, I dive into the raw realities of spending holidays apart from your children due to divorce or custody arrangements.
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Episode 157
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14:36
Emotional Coercion
This episode dives into emotional coercion—the subtle, insidious tactics designed to control your decisions and behavior without overt aggression. From gaslighting that leaves you questioning your reality to guilt-tripping that makes you feel r...
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Episode 156
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30:06
Coercive Control with Dr Christine Cocchiola
Coercive control is an invisible form of abuse that traps victims in a web of psychological manipulation and domination. In this episode, Dr. Christine—a survivor, protective parent, and advocate—unpacks the strategies abusers use to exert powe...
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Episode 155
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40:13