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You Are Not Crazy
You’re exhausted from over-functioning, always managing the chaos just to make it seem okay. You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you.
Your friends don’t get it. You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you're the problem. You're not.
I understand—because I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to be stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship, gaslit into silence, and walking on eggshells every day.
This podcast is here to help you feel seen. To help you make sense of the confusion. To show you that you're not crazy—and you're not alone.
Whether you’re navigating narcissistic abuse, trauma bonding, or post-separation control, you’ll find clarity, validation, and language for what’s actually happening.
This is your space to reclaim your truth and begin healing—on your terms.
🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com
Episodes
197 episodes
Can a Narcissist Actually Change?
This is one of the most common—and most heartbreaking—questions I hear: Can a narcissist change? In this episode of You Are Not Crazy, I’m walking you through the reality behind that question.The short answer? Maybe—but...
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Episode 186
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13:31
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Why It Hurts So Much (Even After Everything)
When you're breaking a trauma bond or coming to terms with the end of a manipulative relationship, it doesn’t just bruise you—it shatters something inside. This kind of grief defies logic. You’re not just mourning a relationship. You’re grievin...
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Episode 185
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8:09
Why They Couldn’t Love You: Understanding Emotional Capacity in Toxic Relationships
What happens when the person you fought so hard to love turns out to be incapable of loving you back? What do you do with the grief, the self-doubt, and the tidal wave of confusion that follows?In this raw and deeply personal episode, I ...
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Episode 183
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18:18
Understanding the Trauma Bond
We dive into the Trauma Bond: how it forms, why it's so hard to leave, and what recovery really looks like. This isn't just about red flags or textbook definitions. This is about the lived experience—the confusion, the craving for relief, the g...
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Episode 182
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36:22
The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits
What do you do when the person you love explodes—and it has nothing to do with you, but you’re the one absorbing the damage?In today’s episode, I’m talking about a very specific and disorienting experience: the emotional outbursts that o...
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Episode 181
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11:31
They're Just Avoiding Accountability
In this episode, I unpack how abusers flip the script by dredging up unrelated past events, twisting reality, and using guilt as a weapon to derail accountability. If you've ever found yourself defending a mistake from five years ago while tryi...
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Episode 180
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9:58
The Cumulative Effect: Why It Wasn’t “Just One Thing”
I explore one of the most disorienting realities of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship: the way each incident is treated like it exists in isolation—when in reality, it all added up.I share my personal experience of slowly rea...
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Episode 179
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11:00
When Betrayal Breaks Your Sense of Self
I share the story of a client—“Amanda”—who experienced a devastating betrayal that shattered not only her relationship but her trust in herself. What began as a hopeful, grounded connection turned into a traumatic discovery of infidelity and de...
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Episode 178
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12:41
Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: Why It Matters and How It Can Help
I’m doing something a little different — I’m walking you through my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: what it is, why it matters, and how it can help if you’re stuck questioning your reality.I share the story of how I realize...
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Episode 177
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16:29
He Controlled the Money — Now What? with Victoria Kirilloff
Vctoria Kirilloff, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and founder of Divorce Analytics, brings her sharp expertise, and personal experience leaving an abusive relationship, to help listeners navigate the financial side of divorce with clarity ...
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Episode 176
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50:50
Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae
I’m joined by Dr. Nae, trauma bond expert, author of Run Like Hell, and former wife of Jordan Belfort—better known as the Wolf of Wall Street. Dr. Nae shares her story of surviving a deeply toxic and pathological relationship, what it ...
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Episode 175
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36:22
How Abusers Use Therapy Against You
I explore how abusive partners can use therapy to reinforce blame, rewrite reality, and further control their partners. She breaks down red flags to watch for—like when therapy sessions become ammunition, or when your partner suddenly becomes a...
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Episode 174
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22:42
When Gaslighting Silences Your Inner Voice
This episode explores how gaslighting works, highlights red flags such as constant self-doubt and the need to over-apologize, and shares practical strategies for reclaiming your sense of reality. I also unpack the manipulative DARVO tactic—wher...
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Episode 173
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8:44
Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Necessary
You are allowed to be a whole person—not just a performance for someone else. If you've been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you may have been taught to compromise your needs, silence your instincts, and tie your worth to someone else's...
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Episode 172
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7:38
Are You Trapped in a High Conflict Divorce with a Narcissist?
In this episode, I discuss the isolating and draining reality of divorcing a narcissist. I share how constant manipulation, gaslighting, and relentless legal battles can leave you feeling lost and unheard. I dive into the challenges...
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Episode 171
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17:42
DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Keeps You Questioning Yourself
DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a pattern that keeps you stuck in cycles of self-doubt, confusion, and emotional turmoil. In this episode, I break down how it works, how to recognize it in real time, and—most importantly—ho...
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Episode 168
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9:33
How Cluster B Traits Show Up in Toxic Relationships
This episode is a deep dive into the reality of navigating relationships with individuals who exhibit traits of Cluster B personality disorders—including narcissistic, borderline, antisocial, and histrionic personality disorders. If you've ever...
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Episode 167
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30:00
I Love You, If You Do This: A Story of Realizing Sexual Coercion
Sex can be misused as a tool for emotional regulation and control rather than genuine connection. In this episode, I take you through a story describing what initially felt like overwhelming love gradually revealed itself as a pattern of guilt-...
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Episode 166
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18:56
Do You Feel Pressured to be Intimate?
Intimacy can be manipulated as a tool for control and emotional regulation. She shares intimate stories of recognizing coercive patterns—from subtle guilt-tripping and boundary violations to the misuse of sex as a litmus test for emotional conn...
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Episode 165
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18:09
Aimee the AI Advocate: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Emotional Abuse
Anne Wintemute, co-founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI-driven companion designed to support survivors of relationship abuse, joins me to share the inspiration behind Aimee and how it serves as an emotional support tool, offering valid...
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Episode 164
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42:06
Navigating Breakups
This episode breaks down why conventional breakup rules don’t apply when you’re dealing with manipulation, control, and gaslighting, and offers guidance on how to reclaim your boundaries, your sanity, and your life. By focusing on patterns over...
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Episode 163
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18:29
Understanding the Capability of Emotionally Abusive People with Paul Colaianni
Can an emotionally abusive person change? Paul Colliani joins me to explore the patterns of manipulative behavior, why some people refuse to take accountability, and how anxious attachment and emotional immaturity play into abusive dynamics.&nb...
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Episode 162
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1:26:27
Trauma Bonding – Understanding the Addictive Cycle in Toxic Relationships
In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really means and why it can feel so hard to leave a toxic relationship. Instead of being about sharing past trauma, trauma bonding happens because of a crazy cycle of ups and downs—b...
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Episode 161
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27:03