When “How to Treat a Man” Teaches Women to Disappear

I unpack a viral TikTok that has been shared hundreds of thousands of times—and why its message is far more dangerous than it first appears.

On the surface, the video presents itself as “relationship advice” about how women can keep men happy. In reality, it reinforces coercive control, sexual entitlement, and the idea that women are responsible for regulating men’s emotions, egos, and loyalty—often at the expense of their own boundaries, bodies, and well-being.

I break down:

• How this type of content subtly trains women to doubt themselves
• Why framing women as a man’s “peace” is a red flag, not a virtue
• How sexual coercion gets normalized and disguised as intimacy advice
• The link between these messages and trauma bonding
• Why “respect,” “appreciation,” and “affection” become tools of control in abusive dynamics
• How women are conditioned to abandon themselves to keep relationships stable

This episode is direct, emotional, and unapologetic. It is not about attacking men. It is about naming narratives that groom women to tolerate neglect, emotional abuse, and coercion—while being told they are the problem.

The video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8y6LN2x/